Google+ YA Romantics: Freebie Friday 34: The Five D's of YA Parents

Friday, March 8, 2013

Freebie Friday 34: The Five D's of YA Parents


Happy Friday!

In my review on Wednesday, I mentioned "parents who fall into what I'm now officially calling the Five D's of YA Parents: Dead, Divorced, Distant, Drunk, or Distracted."



And several of you said, "You should do a post on that!"

I'm working on it. And I'm adding a couple more D's. Like Deranged...


I don't think there are a lot of deranged parents in YA, but I'd say that Warner's father definitely qualifies! 

But I thought we'd focus on the positive today. There are many, many divorced parents out there who are fantastic parents -- any examples of that in YA?  And what about other YA parents who are Devoted … Dutiful … Dependable … Demonstrative … Doting? Maybe even Drama-Free?

Here are a few of my favorite YA parents. 


Lola and the Boy Next Door by Stephanie Perkins Revolution by Jennifer Donnelly Please Ignore Vera Dietz by A.S. King

Lola and the Boy Next Door by Stephanie Perkins
Lola has two dads, which means double the overprotectiveness. I loved them! But I'm still getting used to this new cover….

Revolution by Jennifer Donnelly
Nobody likes to admit they're a helicopter parent, but most of us do hover. Andi's best friend Vijay's mom, Mrs. Gupta, wants the best for her son. No one can say she's not around. Loved her!

Please Ignore Vera Dietz by A. S. King
I was so happy that parent Ken Dietz gets a POV in this book. And he makes flow charts. Vera's mom left and he's doing the best he can to be a single parent to his teenage daughter. 

There are LOTS of other amazing parents (or even surrogate parents, like aunts, older siblings, etc.) 
Tell me in comments about your favorites!

Here's what's in the Freebie Friday goody pile this week -- any of the three books above featuring my favorite YA parents OR:



ARCS:
Crash and Burn
Dear Cassie
The Summer Prince
Notes From Ghost Town
Just One Day
The Look
Pushing the Limits

Finished Copies:
The Trouble With Flirting
Poison Princess
Pivot Point
Perfect Scoundrels (not pictured)

Winner will be drawn Monday, March 11 at 9 am. Open internationally, but if the cost of mailing the prize exceeds $10 US, then I will order the winner anything up to $10 US from The Book Depository -- that includes Dear Cassie, The Trouble With Flirting and The Look!

So, to enter, just tell me in comments about a favorite parent in YA. If you don't have a blog or an email connected to the account you comment with, please leave your email in the Google Doc so I can find you if the randomizer picks your number! Thanks for stopping by :)
This Freebie Friday is no longer accepting entries, but please check back next week!

128 comments:

  1. Ooooooooh... Excellent parents? Well... certainly not Billy Dent. Maybe the Weasleys? Love them.

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    1. Billy Dent from I Hunt Killers is another demented one. LOL, maybe there are more than I think….
      Yay for the Weasleys :)

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  2. YES to Lola's dads! I loved them to pieces! I also liked Mrs. Garrett in My Life Next Door. And I also love Weasley's, like mentioned above. It's hard to think of any because like you said, those 5 D's!

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    1. The Garretts were great -- I don't know how they managed so many kids!

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  3. So glad you're expanding on the "D's" of YA parents. I've really liked the parents in Lindsey Leavitt's books and I know that when I review a book, I usually like to applaud the parents if they're good. What about Clara's mom in the Unearthly series? I thought she was pretty good and very present.

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  4. I've recently read Matched and loved Cassia's parents, they just love her so much <3

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    1. You're right -- it's been a while since I read that, but she did have wonderful parents!

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  5. I really had to think hard on this one because a lot of the ones I have read, the parents had been absent or very dysfunctional. I really liked Kiara's parents in Rules of Attraction. They were great and I loved how protective, caring and giving her dad was

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  6. Yay- the dad in Vera Dietz was wonderful :)
    I also really love the Weasleys, of course.

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  7. Hun! I'm trying to think of some good parents.... I loved Charlie's mom in Something Like Normal.
    Thanks for sharing!

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    1. She made me cry so much -- I was holding it together until she came into the book!

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  8. Good parents... it's funny how it's harder to think of good parents in YA than bad ones. The Weasley's from HP, Bella's dad from Twilight, Umm Mila's "mom" in Mila 2.0 I mean she wasn't perfect, and kept a lot of things secret, but in the end I thought she really was pretty awesome.

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  9. To think back in most book I've read the characters have some kind of parent-issues. I like reading about great parents! My favorite is Aiden, Kaylee's dad from If I Die by Rachel Vincent! He is amazing!

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  10. I love the Weasley's from Harry Potter, and "The bulldog", Jane's dad from Beyond.

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    1. The Bulldog? That's hilarious. I haven't read that one!

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  11. Awww, I love Ken Dietz. My favorite YA parents are definitely Mr. & Mrs. Garrett from My Life Next Door; they're such a sweet couple and are such caring and involved parents.

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  12. When I read the first paragraph, I was already thinking of mentioning a deranged parents option to add to the list :D
    It's a good idea actually! It would be nice to know what kind of parents are in a book before hand.

    I have read about five books which include a deranged mother or father, mostly mother though. And in four of them the mother was bipolar, I think that's a new wave in books.

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    1. Oh, my favorite type of parents are devoted and drama-free, like my parents are. I like that they let me go out with friends and stay the night at their house, I just have to let them know that I'm okay and when I would probably be home.

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    2. I was thinking of truly deranged parents, like murderers. And there are a few of those!

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  13. Lola's dads are the best! The only ones I can honestly think of in YA. Especially in paranormal the parents are absent. In contemporaries they are around more but I would say that again they are usually drunk or distant. Beth's uncle in Dare You To was a good guy and took her in. I can't really think of any others!

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  14. one of my favortie parents goes back to the Sweet Valley High series. I think part of it is because I've known them for so long throughout the series and that they are so ordinary.

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  15. I feel like it is difficult to find good parents in YA and when a parent is finally good I have to mention it in my reviews because it just doesn't happen that often.

    One of my favorite YA parents is Wren's Mother in Cold Kiss by Amy Garvey the relationship Wren has with her mother is so like the one I had with my Mom when I was a teenager that I couldn't help but love it. I also really liked the parental relationship in Pivot Point by Kasie West although they didn't always get along Addison knew both of her parents had her best interest at heart and loved her.

    I also wanted to add Juliet Moreau's Father from The Madman's Daughter by Meghan Sheperd to the list of deranged parents!

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    1. Haven't read Cold Kiss -- it's on my stack of stuff I want to get to over the summer!

      YES -- Dr. Moreau is truly deranged and demented!!

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  16. We don't see them a lot but i really appreciate the parents of the merrick brothers in the element series by brigid kemmerer

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  17. YAY! Ask and you shall receive, love this post! And I REALLY love all the additional D's you have since come up with. My favorite: the Drama Free parent:)

    Ok, I want that copy of The Trouble with Flirting badly (loved that book but the last couple of pages were missing from the ARC I read!)

    My fave parent in YA would be Sid's mother in Colleen Clayton's What Happened Next. She was this awesome, fiesty Irish mom who loved her daughter (and family) to pieces. She was fierce but also soft at the same time. And most importantly, she was always very present in her daughter's life. An amazing mom:)

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    1. What? Missing pages -- that's so annoying!

      I have What Happens Next -- thanks to the great Starry Eyed Jen -- hoping to get to that soon :)

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  18. I agree with about the Weasleys were awesome. Gosh I cannot think of anyone else from the top of my head and that is just sad.. umm umm... I have not read any of the once above, but I am glad there are a few good parents out there :D

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    1. Sad that it is SO hard to think of good parents!

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  19. This is a cool topic choice! One of my favorites would have to be Clara's mom in Unearthly! She's fabulous.

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  20. Okay, so I really loved Patti in Sweet Evil. It was a nice change from the "Five D" parents (though Patti's not actually Anna's biological mom, she's totally her mom!). And Anna wasn't (overly) annoyed by Patti's protectiveness, but was appreciative and you could tell they love each other. To be honest, their relationship was one of the reasons I so thoroughly enjoyed Sweet Evil!
    Thanks for the giveaway!

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    1. Trying to remember -- is Patti her aunt, or her mom's friend? She is really sweet and takes good care of Anna!

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  21. So I wasn't going to comment because I have won quite a bit lately, but there are several books there I would really like to read and then I read your comments and just had to pitch in. ;)

    I DON'T like the new Lola cover. Loved the other one so much more! Besides the fact that the other one fit the story better.

    Since everyone is having a tough time coming up with good parents, I'll add several to the list: The surrogate parent in Partials, Katy's mom in Obsidian, Pepper's parents in Not My Type, Cammie's mother (and other parents) in Gallagher Girls were all good parents. A lot of the parents in Janette Rallison's books are great, but she's also a great parent so I'm sure some of that carries over. I definitely notice bad parents in books more than good ones though. I think it's because they tick me off when they aren't doing their job.

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    1. Enjoy that lucky streak!

      I haven't read any of these except Obsidian!

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  22. Hmm, most of the books I read seem to have the revelation in them that the characters parents are not their biological parents! A good parent though? Hmm, maybe wren's dad in lovely, dark and deep. dealing with a depressed daughter can't be easy!

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  23. trying to think of a d-word for non-biological parents, maybe DNA-challenged?

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  24. The Weasleys are awesome for sure! I can't really think of any others though.. hmm.. great post!

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  25. That's a hard question - how about Marilla from the Anne of Green Gables series?

    Thanks,
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  26. The Cullen parents in Twilight are awesome...devoted...doting. I love how they protected and helped not only their own kids but anyone else who needed it! Great post and question!

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    1. LOL -- that is an example of parents who are dead AND devoted. It's hard to be both at once unless you're a vampire.

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  27. I know you said positive but I have a demented lol The mom in Renegade by J.A. Sauders. She's up there with Warner's dad.

    I just read a book with wonderful adults and parents and I can't remember it! It's driving me crazy because I remember being so stunned by the fact that the adults were present and nice. It's such an odd thing in YA and it shouldn't be.

    I do agree about Beth's uncle in Dare You To. (saw that one in the comments)

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    1. HA -- apparently there are more demented/deranged parents than I realized!

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  28. Although The Mortal Instruments and The Infernal Devices both have cases of terrible parenting (Valentine from TMI and Gabriel and Gideon's father from TID), my favorite surrogate parents are from those series. Charlotte and Henry from TID are the cutest guardians of Will, Jem, and Jessamine. Same with Jocelyn and Luke, who at first bugged me, but now I find them the second cutest YA parent pair.

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  29. Hm this one is kind of tough. Not sure if you've read it but I guess the first ones that popped into my head are Philip's parents from That Boy/That Wedding by Jillian Dodd. And I suppose the Weasleys from Harry Potter too!

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    1. I have not read that one, but glad to hear of some new examples :)

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  30. Is it sad that I can't think of any "amazing" parents?? lol

    AHA! I got one: Eve's parents from Eve Hollows and the Book of Shrieks by Robert Gray. They are awesome! Oh and then there's Graylee's and Charlene's mom from Entangled by Nikki Jefford...she brought her daughter back from the dead!

    But sadly, I can think of more "bad" parents than "awesome" parents.

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  31. Sweet! I love how well you describe each parent. So very true. My I make a recommendation? Read The Chronicles Of Nick by Sherrilyn Kenyon. This book has, in my opinion a great mom who I feel has been more involved in her son's life than most YA books I read. If you read it, let me know :)

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    1. Nope, I haven't read that series either. Adding to the list!

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  32. I like the parents in the River of Time books by Lisa T. Bergren. Although at first, their mom was distant, she came around. And you can tell from the backstory that their parents truly did care about them. Also, I've only read the first one, but it seems like Amy's parents in Across the Universe were very caring too. They gave her a choice and tried to do the freeze procedure thingie with the best intentions for her.

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    1. You've got to get to the third book, which I thought showed a very realistic parent/child relationship -- loving, but not without some conflict!

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  33. It's been a while since I read it, but Violet's dad in The Body Finder I remember being appropriately protective. Also, in Divergent Tris's mom is amazing, although maybe this is a bad example...

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  34. OMG I totally loved Lola's dads. They were awesome parents. I know I read a book recently that had awesome parents in it but I cannot remember it! I always think of the bad parents before the good ones!

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    1. I guess that the bad parents just stick in our minds the most.

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  35. Yes I agree, I think Clara's mom from Unearthly is a great parent!!

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  36. As mentioned, for me it has to be the Weasleys.

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  37. I really liked Lexi's dad in 52 Reasons to Hate my Father. Yes, he was absent for most her life (that is not the part I like, obviously), but I loved how he came around and stepped up in the end.

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    1. You're right -- that was a very cute book and it's rare to see a parent with a growth ARC like that.

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  38. It seems like Clary's mom in the "Mortal Instruments Series" really cares about her! Thanks for the giveaway!

    mestith at gmail dot com

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    1. I read that one so long ago that I forgot what her mom was like -- but great idea :)

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  39. Lily Potter, for without her we would have no Harry.

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    1. Ooh, good point! Plus, she was really brave and put herself into danger to save him.

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  40. Well, Riley's dad was pretty awesome in The Demon Trapper's Daughter- then he gets killed around 1/4 into the first book. So... yeah. Wait, I know! I love Keirran's parents from the Lost Prince- Ash and Meghan! :) But I can't think of any other books with awesome parents who didn't use to have their own series before the spinoff series, if that makes any sense. XD

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    1. Yeah, I was surprised that he died so soon. And then she had to guard his body -- creepy!

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  41. I really love Jase's parents in My Life Next Door and Layken's mom in Slammed :)

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  42. Even though they only made a short appearance, they left a huge mark on me. Mia's parents from If I Stay by Gayle Forman. :)

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  43. I think no matter how the parents are, I like to see SOME sort of parental figure in a YA book. Too often, the book is JUST the kids and I always find myself wondering where the heck the parents are. It's great when they're actually involved! I find that Sarah Dessen, John Green, and Stephanie Perkins work in the parents very well!

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    1. That's true. The Sarah Dessen parents are often somewhat dysfunctional, but they're there….

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  44. I think all of the parents in The Fault in our Stars. All parents are dealing with sick loved ones. Not only they ae suffering from illnesses I.e. Cancer but also dealing with relationships. Parents have a hard job finding balance of protecting their child and yet allowing freedom.

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    1. I thought Hazel had a great relationship with her parents -- great choice!

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  45. Good parents? I loved Katy's mom from the Lux series by JLA. We didn't see much of her in the series but she definitely is a great parent in my books.

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    1. True -- she wasn't in there a lot, but she seemed good!

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  46. Oh my gosh, Jen! My fingers are crossed doubly hard for this one. I see two books that I know the kids from my charity are DYING for. <3

    I have to say that I haven't come across many books with proper parents. Most of them have absentee parents in all honesty. I recommend reading 52 REASONS TO HATE MY FATHER. The father was an absentee parent that learned what he was doing wrong, so he quit his billionaire job to spend more time with his daughter and teach her lessons about working from the bottom up because humble roots lead to success. That's a good story about a bad parent forming into a good one.

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  47. What a great post!! I'm going to pick Gwen Frost's mom in the Mythos Academy series because although she died early in the series, the morals and values and life lessons that she taught Gwen continue to be present throughout the whole series. Her mom is still having a huge impact on her life and that, to me, is a good mother :)

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    1. Great choice. It's sad that she died, but she was a great mom. And then Gwen has her grandmother, who is a fantastic surrogate parent.

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  48. I think I really like Etienne st Clair's mom from Anna and the French kiss... We don't hear a lot from her, but she loves Etienne so mush... and that's good enough for me.

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    1. Oh, she was really good. Lili (above) and I were emailing about how the dads in that book were awful, but the moms were good..

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  49. Aside from Lola'a dads I liked Clara's mum and dad too. Clara is from the Unearthly trilogy.

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  50. This might go against this week's question since Mia's parents did end up dying in If I Stay, but since they are so relevant in her flashbacks I think they qualify! They were so lovable and funny and I'm so glad that they were able to make the appearance they did in the book!

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  51. I would choose Harmony. She is the mother to Nash and Tod in the Soul Screamers series. :) So kind and understanding.

    - Beckie

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    1. Haven't read that one, but I think it got another vote above!

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  52. Yes! I loved Lola's dads!! Some of my favorite YA parents ever! This is such a great idea or a post.

    Jesse @ Pretty In Fiction

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  53. It's so difficult to come up with one lol!
    I like Clara's mum from Unearthly. The events that happened in book 2 made me cry. :(

    There was also this scene in Morganville Vampires. Claire's parents weren't always around. I don't really remember which book it was but I really liked the talk Claire had with her dad.

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  54. The Weasleys :) They're fun and love their children.

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  55. This is a hard question - so many of the parents in my favorite books are flawed in some way. I definitely agree with the other comments - I loved the Weasleys in Harry Potter. I also really liked Clary's mom from the Mortal Instruments - even though she wasn't totally honest.

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  56. My favorite would be Cammie's mom from the Gallagher Girls series. She's such a caring mom and cool too! I wouldn't mind having a spy mom. And the mom of Katy from the Lux series is also one of my favorites. :) Anyways, I completely agree with you regarding Warner's dad. He really is deranged. -__- No wonder Warner acts like that. He's got no choice but to act so tough and rough so his dad won't be mad.

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  57. And oh, the Cullens did a great job in being good parents to their kids.

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  58. It's hard finding great parents, because a lot of them don't come up often. But the Weasleys'! You can't help but love them. :D

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  59. Now that I got into thinking about YA parents, most of them are either absent or negligent or juat plain horrible. Since I haven't read any of the books you mentioned (and I really need to read Lola), I would go with Clary's mom in Unearthly and Layken's mom in Slammed. Both of them were like my mom and I liked them a lot.

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  60. I actually liked Rose's parents from the Vampire Academy series. They might have been distant, but they were could kick some butt and was there when Rose needed help.

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    1. Oooh, good one. They weren't your typical parents, but they were pretty good - especially her dad.

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  61. I can think of a few good parents. Although they weren't real parents, I loved the Cullens, Esme and Carlisle. I also love Bella's dad Charlie. He reminds me a little bit of my own dad.

    I also loved Percy Jackson's mother, although for the life of me I can't remember her name.

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  62. I just finished the arc for Furious, and I loved Raymond's mom. She was really wonderful! Although I agree, the Weasleys are pretty much perfect.

    I love reading YA books with positive parents, or unconventional parent figures- like the stop mom in Crash and Burn.

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  63. Hmm, that is actually a hard question, lately I feel like I keep running into AWFUL parents. I would have to say Cas's mom in Anna Dressed in Blood is a good mom and I would have to agree with others, the Twilight parents are pretty great too!

    Ashley @ The Quiet Concert

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  64. WHILE I AM STILL ACCEPTING COMMENTS, THE GIVEAWAY IS OVER. ONLY PEOPLE ABOVE WITH NUMBERS WILL BE ENTERED IN THE DRAWING -- THANKS :)

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